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“He might only be here for part of your life, but for him you are his whole life.”

Puppy Advice

In a recent blog post I discussed the fact that a lot of people tend to get their new puppies around the festive time of year and undeniably, as a result, the number of dogs that are then left at shelters in the early part of the year increases significantly. 

It is not my place to pass judgement on those who feel they need to rehome their dog/puppy and that is not the intention of this post but what I do want to think about is the reasons why people come to this decision and want to see if I can help provide some puppy advice and support on the subject based on my personal experiences. I have never hidden the fact that I struggled with Buddy at the start, but I managed to work through my negative feelings towards him using a variety of techniques and figured that if I can share these techniques and help save even just one dog from having to be rehomed then it will be worth taking the time to write this blog post.  

So I guess the first question is what are some of the main reasons that people feel they have to give up their dog/puppy? There will be many individual circumstances that I can’t possibly cover in this post but i’ll try and examine some of the most common ones and potential ways of alleviating the issues. For the purposes of writing this blog a lot of it will be aimed at people who have young puppies but some of the issues and advice will apply to older dogs that have recently been re-homed too. If you feel like any of the issues listed below resonate with you then read on and see if any of the puppy advice I have suggested is worth trying:

  1. You are struggling with toilet training and your house is turning into a mess
  2. The puppy is biting and nipping all the time.
  3. The puppy is chewing and destroying everything in the house. 
  4. The dog won’t stop barking 
  5. The dog growls when we go near their toys or food and I’m worried they will turn on me/kids.
  6. I feel overwhelmed/anxious and generally negative towards the dog.  

Toilet Training

Toilet training a new puppy or any dog in a new environment can be tricky and if you are like me and very house proud it can be frustrating and upsetting when your home suddenly becomes your dog’s toilet and your nice carpet or flooring starts to get damaged. First things first, try and be patient (especially with puppies). Remember that their whole world has recently been turned upside down and everything is new to them so cut them a little slack. Invest in some good carpet cleaner and if you can try and get one that removes the smell of urine – there are a few on the market and even some home recipes online. Dogs tend to mark their territory and you’ll find they will keep revisiting the same spot unless you can remove the smell. 

A lot of people try the puppy training pads and slowly move them closer to the door and some people go down the route of ‘poochie bells’ where you hang them on the door handle and ring them everytime you go out so the dog starts to associate going to the toilet with the bells and eventually starts to nudge them independently to tell you when they need to go out.

To be honest for me just old fashioned perseverance worked with Buddy. I followed the rule of thumb that everytime he ate, woke up from a nap or had playtime, I scooped him up and took him outside. These are generally the key times they need to go to the toilet. Of course we had accidents but positive reinforcement with praise and treats when he went outside eventually got through to him.

Whatever you do, please do not scold the dog if you find they’ve had an accident after the fact. They will not understand what they have done wrong 10 minutes after they have done it and it will just confuse them more. If you spot them in the act then scoop them up the best you can and put them outside or wherever you want them to learn to go and they will soon get the hang of it. It only took Buddy a month or so to really get the hang of things and now he has such amazing control and now often goes out for a bedtime wee at 8pm and it’s a mission to drag him out of bed for his morning wee at 7/8am 12 hours later!

Biting

Biting is a tough one and something I struggled with a lot. Biting in younger dogs is most commonly a sign of teething and the age at which this occurs can vary depending on the breed but usually starts at around three weeks of age and lasts for six to eight months in total. Just a note that I am not able to offer advice on adult dogs biting and I would advise seeking out professional help if this is occurring. My sister and I always joked that puppy teeth were like needle shark teeth and Buddy’s tendendancy to nip was quite bad. I found that he would chomp at my ankles, jump up and snag his teeth on my clothes and rip them, nip my hands when I tried to play with him etc and being perfectly honest it really hurt!! On top of being a bit sleep deprived and generally worn down from my new responsibilities I now had my own personal piranha and it was really hard not to react badly and shout at Buddy when he continuously nipped and hurt me. So what was the answer….

I think it’s important to remember that puppies are exploring the world with their mouths, it’s how they learn. Puppies often learn what is called bite inhibition when they are with their littermates and other dogs and this is why if a puppy is removed too soon from its litter it can cause issues. If you watch a group of puppies a lot of their play is biting each other. They are pushing the boundaries and seeing what is acceptable behaviour. If you find that when you are trying to play with your puppy they are nipping you then often letting out a high pitched yelp helps them to understand that they have hurt you the way a littermate would show them. Stop playing with them and walk away and the negative result will help to learn they should not be biting you. 

One of the hardest things I found about controlling the nipping and biting was more my ability to control my reaction to it. A dog trainer explained to me that my natural reaction to shout out and move away quickly would trigger the ‘prey drive’ in Buddy and he would think it was a game of chase.  As strange as it sounds she recommended me washing my wellies and starting to wear them in the house. That way if Buddy took a chomp at my ankles I wouldn’t feel anything or react. I could simply stay still, firmly say ‘no’ and walk away calmly so he knew I wasn’t playing anymore. I have to say it worked a treat! My other handy tip was as soon as I got home I got changed into the same pair of old leggings that already had rips in if further damage was done by accident I didn’t become even more frustrated that more clothes had been damaged. I’m not saying you have to walk around in the same pair of trousers and wellies in your house for the rest of your life but I did this for the worst period, as a coping mechanism, and it really helped me.

Chewing

A similar topic to general biting is the puppy chewing things it isn’t meant to. From my experience this can be caused by a couple of things. When Buddy was younger this was a sign of his teething.  The process of teething is an uncomfortable one where their gums are hot and itchy and they are frustrated and don’t know what else to do but bite and chew things to alleviate that discomfort. There are lots of specific teething type toys and chews out there for puppies you can buy, but a great piece of puppy advice I was given was to saturate an old tea towel and twist it round then pop it in the freezer. Once frozen you can give this to the puppy to chew and the coolness helps soothe their gums. Similarly frozen carrot slices work well too and are a healthy snack for them. 

The other cause of chewing which I observed with Buddy when he was around 6 months old was boredom. I found that Buddy started to destroy his bed when I went to work and this was a typical sign that he was bored. At this stage I was working full time and coming home at lunch to take him for a walk but it was obvious that at this stage of his life that wasn’t enough stimulation for him. In my personal circumstances, I made the decision to start taking him to doggy daycare so he wasn’t bored since then he has never chewed or destroyed anything in the house. I appreciate not everyone can afford daycare but understanding that chewing is often a sign of boredom can help you work towards fixing the issue either with longer walks, more enrichment games and so on. 

Barking

Barking is a dogs way of communicating with us. There can be many reasons for a dog barking and it is perfectly normal but there can come a stage where it becomes excessive and can cause great amounts of stress for you as a dog owner. Below are a few of the reasons your dog may  be barking:

  • Boredom – commonly paired with other behaviour such as chewing, digging and general destructive behaviour. These dogs have a build up of energy and are looking for any way to let it out. 
  • Attention seeking – clever dogs will quickly work out that when they bark they get attention from their owner (whether this is good or bad attention they don’t necessarily care) so will often repeat the behaviour to get the focus back on them. 
  • Over excitement – typically seen when playing, it’s like when a child gets over excited and starts screaming as they run around. A form of energy outburst for the dog. 
  • Defensive barking – similar to offensive barking this is to protect from a threat but is seen alongside more nervous body language as the dog isn’t sure how to act. 
  • Offensive barking – this is a signal the dog is trying to protect themselves or something. You will often notice their body language changes to be more aggressive too. 
  • Watchdog barking – probably one of the best forms of barking that is encouraged but once your dog makes you aware of something it’s nice to know how to ‘switch it off’ 
  • Separation distress – if your pet doesn’t like being left alone and/or separated from you they will often bark and/or whine and howl as a signal that they are not happy about it.

I think the first step in tackling the barking issue is to try and work out which of the above type or barking your dog is doing. For example, if your dog is ‘watchdog barking’ and it drives you crackers, close your curtains so they can’t see out and set them off. (This is a Buddy special so something we have to do quite often if there is a lot of activity going on outside).

To try and help manage the barking situation there are a couple of different things you can try. Make a point of rewarding calm quiet behaviour. Give them lots of fuss, tickles and praise when they are calm and relaxed and on the occasions where they are being noisy try and ignore them to show that the attention seeking behaviour doesn’t work! Dogs are very intelligent and will soon figure out what you want from them. 

A favourite trick that I use on Buddy is the distraction technique – particularly when he has a bee in his bonnet about something he has seen outside. Often I will get out some treats and do a mini training session with him where we do the basics like, sit, paw, lie down, roll over and high five. By the time he has finished doing his tricks he has forgotten what he was barking about and peace is restored. From my personal experience I think a calm environment helps a lot. Buddy is a cockapoo so typically quite a giddy breed. It’s great to have play time and make sure he is enriched and entertained but I also make a point of having down time too where he knows it’s time for a lie down and a tummy stoke or a cuddle on my knee while I watch TV or do some work. 

Also, a final piece of puppy advice on this, if you still think your dog is excessively barking and it doesn’t seem to fit in any of the above categories, why not arrange a quick check up with your vet to rule out anything physiological – remember your dog is trying to communicate with you about something and if it’s not obvious what that is then a trip to the vet will help give you peace of mind.

Resource Guarding

Resource guarding is the term for when a dog becomes protective over something. The resource itself that the dog chooses to guard  can be food, treats, toys, a place (a bed or favorite chair), or occasionally a person. It is not uncommon and can happen towards other dogs or even humans. 

Typically a dog would display this behaviour by growling or barking as someone gets closer to the item they are trying to protect. This is the dog’s way of saying they want some space. Some great puppy advice for this is making sure that your dog has a special place in your home where they feel safe and they can go there and be left alone. This is often very important if you have young children that can sometimes be overwhelming for your dog and they need a place to escape. It’s important to teach children not to go near the dog if they are in their ‘safe space’. For Buddy he had a large cage (with the door left open) with blankets draped over 3 sides so it was quiet, dark and cosy. 

If your dog gets hold of an item they aren’t meant to have and you need to retrieve it then your best bet is going for the diversion method. Sometimes the ‘leave it/drop it’ command just won’t cut it so you need to offer a tasty morsel or toy that they absolutely love, known as the ‘high value reward’. This might be their favourite ball or if they are like Buddy it could be a little bit of cheese or hot dog sausage. Show them they will get something even better and place it away from them and 9 times out of 10 then will drop the item in favour of the thing you want to get back. 

Please remember that resource guarding is a normal behaviour for most dogs but use common sense when it comes to the level of aggression a dog is showing and if necessary seek professional advice if you think it is something that needs addressing. 

Post Puppy Blues

You would be amazed at the amount of people I hear from who say they are feeling really low after getting their new dog/puppy and want to know if it is normal. The answer is yes!! 

When I got Buddy I lived on my own and was working full time. I had been waiting to get a dog for the last 5 years and had done an extensive amount of research and preparation so in theory I was as prepared as I could possibly be but wow it was hard. It wasn’t so much the physical changes in my life (getting up early to let him out to the toilet, not being able to go out for more than 2 hours in those early months, watching him like a hawk constantly to make sure he wasn’t going to the toilet in the house, chewing or eating something he shouldn’t) but in fact it was the emotional side of things. 

Getting a puppy is different for everyone. Some people already have children and know what it is to have another life depend on you 100%, some people already have a dog and are used to tailoring their lifestyle to accommodate their needs and some, like me, go from having a responsibility free life to suddenly having this gorgeous bundle of fluff rely on them for everything. My point is everyone approaches being a puppy owner from a different place and we all cope in different ways so it is inevitable that we all have different reactions and experiences to bringing that puppy home and whatever emotions you go through that is okay!

I remember distinctly after the first week thinking ‘what have I done?!’ I was tired from the middle of the night get-ups to the toilet, frustrated because my adorable puppy kept nipping and hurting me and was feeling very confined to my house as I didn’t want to leave him and he hadn’t finished his vaccination course so we couldn’t even go out for a walk yet. Here was this defenceless puppy who wanted nothing but love from me and I was starting to resent him which then gave me feelings of guilt on top of that. I had imagined having this wonderful puppy that I could bond with who would want to sit and cuddle on my knee and be my best friend. Instead I had a wriggly piranha who didn’t want to sit still for 30 seconds let alone be cuddled. I thought I had made a huge mistake. 

What really helped me in those early days was the support of friends and family. My mum offered to come and look after Buddy for a couple of hours every now and then so I could have some ‘me time’ (whether that was to go meet a friend, hit the gym or just clean my house without Buddy attacking the hoover) and it made a huge difference. Once Buddy had received his full course of vaccinations I was able to go out and meet friends with dogs for walks and start socialising Buddy which was very important. I also joined a cockapoo group on Facebook which was a great source of support with people going through similar experiences and was one of the inspirational factors for me coming up with the idea for K9 Nation.

I think if you are encountering any negative emotional responses to your new dog, you need to be okay with that. Don’t beat yourself up or think you aren’t ‘normal.’  I think there are common misconceptions that having a new puppy should be all cuddles and joyous picture perfect moments and it’s not at all. Don’t give yourself a hard time and just recognise that you have made a big life changing decision and allow yourself time to adjust. Reach out to your support network so that they can help you. Find a way to make time for yourself again and don’t feel guilty about it. Find a local dog walker/daycare if you can afford it so that if you need the odd day off or have something you need to do you have a back up plan. If you can’t afford that then find a local neighbour or friend who loves dogs and would be happy to dog sit for you. Look for friends on the K9 Nation site who can help ease the burden and arrange meet ups.

Summary

As I said before, I know this is a long blog post but I think it’s really important that for those people who feel they are struggling with adjusting to life with a new dog/puppy to know there are resources and support out there for them. Owning a dog is a huge responsibility and in those early days it can be very tough. I can openly admit that I didn’t enjoy my first 9 months that much with Buddy but I wouldn’t change it for the world. He is now 4 years old and the best possible dog I could ask for which has made it all worthwhile. 

I created K9 Nation because I wanted a free online platform for all dog owners in the UK to make dog ownership as easy as possible. I wanted to create a supportive community and help bring dog owners together to share experiences and advice. Whether you want inspiration for a new walk, to plan a fun family day out and want to know where you can go with your dog, get some puppy advice, or simply need to find a local groomer… my vision is that K9 Nation will be that one stop shop for all your needs and I can’t wait to see it grow. 

For those who have decided that rehoming is the only option please consider what is right for the dog. I don’t want to go into too much detail as there is lots of advice online for what to do and it’s not the focus of this blog but remember there are several options you can explore:

  • Return them to the breeder, shelter, or rescue group you acquired them from..
  • Place them with a trusted friend or family member. 
  • Advertise for someone to adopt them. 
  • Take them to a good shelter or rescue.

I guess, to draw this to a close, I would just like to encourage people who are struggling and maybe questioning whether or not to rehome their new dog to persevere and give their dog a chance. A lot of the things I have mentioned above are all surmountable and support is out there if you need it. The reward for your persistence through the tough times is your dog’s unconditional love for the whole of their life. One of my favourite quotes that I like to remember is, “He might only be here for part of your life, but for him you are his whole life.”

For those looking for more information on this subject why not take a look at a recently published article from ‘Choosing Therapy’ on the subject here. All their articles are written by licensed therapists, professors, and other qualified professionals and are medically reviewed prior to publication to ensure accuracy

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Puppy Advice

In a recent blog post I discussed the fact that a lot of people tend to get their new puppies around the festive time of year and undeniably, as a result, the number of dogs that are then left at shelters in the early part of the year increases significantly. 

It is not my place to pass judgement on those who feel they need to rehome their dog/puppy and that is not the intention of this post but what I do want to think about is the reasons why people come to this decision and want to see if I can help provide some puppy advice and support on the subject based on my personal experiences. I have never hidden the fact that I struggled with Buddy at the start, but I managed to work through my negative feelings towards him using a variety of techniques and figured that if I can share these techniques and help save even just one dog from having to be rehomed then it will be worth taking the time to write this blog post.  

So I guess the first question is what are some of the main reasons that people feel they have to give up their dog/puppy? There will be many individual circumstances that I can’t possibly cover in this post but i’ll try and examine some of the most common ones and potential ways of alleviating the issues. For the purposes of writing this blog a lot of it will be aimed at people who have young puppies but some of the issues and advice will apply to older dogs that have recently been re-homed too. If you feel like any of the issues listed below resonate with you then read on and see if any of the puppy advice I have suggested is worth trying:

  1. You are struggling with toilet training and your house is turning into a mess
  2. The puppy is biting and nipping all the time.
  3. The puppy is chewing and destroying everything in the house. 
  4. The dog won’t stop barking 
  5. The dog growls when we go near their toys or food and I’m worried they will turn on me/kids.
  6. I feel overwhelmed/anxious and generally negative towards the dog.  

Toilet Training

Toilet training a new puppy or any dog in a new environment can be tricky and if you are like me and very house proud it can be frustrating and upsetting when your home suddenly becomes your dog’s toilet and your nice carpet or flooring starts to get damaged. First things first, try and be patient (especially with puppies). Remember that their whole world has recently been turned upside down and everything is new to them so cut them a little slack. Invest in some good carpet cleaner and if you can try and get one that removes the smell of urine – there are a few on the market and even some home recipes online. Dogs tend to mark their territory and you’ll find they will keep revisiting the same spot unless you can remove the smell. 

A lot of people try the puppy training pads and slowly move them closer to the door and some people go down the route of ‘poochie bells’ where you hang them on the door handle and ring them everytime you go out so the dog starts to associate going to the toilet with the bells and eventually starts to nudge them independently to tell you when they need to go out.

To be honest for me just old fashioned perseverance worked with Buddy. I followed the rule of thumb that everytime he ate, woke up from a nap or had playtime, I scooped him up and took him outside. These are generally the key times they need to go to the toilet. Of course we had accidents but positive reinforcement with praise and treats when he went outside eventually got through to him.

Whatever you do, please do not scold the dog if you find they’ve had an accident after the fact. They will not understand what they have done wrong 10 minutes after they have done it and it will just confuse them more. If you spot them in the act then scoop them up the best you can and put them outside or wherever you want them to learn to go and they will soon get the hang of it. It only took Buddy a month or so to really get the hang of things and now he has such amazing control and now often goes out for a bedtime wee at 8pm and it’s a mission to drag him out of bed for his morning wee at 7/8am 12 hours later!

Biting

Biting is a tough one and something I struggled with a lot. Biting in younger dogs is most commonly a sign of teething and the age at which this occurs can vary depending on the breed but usually starts at around three weeks of age and lasts for six to eight months in total. Just a note that I am not able to offer advice on adult dogs biting and I would advise seeking out professional help if this is occurring. My sister and I always joked that puppy teeth were like needle shark teeth and Buddy’s tendendancy to nip was quite bad. I found that he would chomp at my ankles, jump up and snag his teeth on my clothes and rip them, nip my hands when I tried to play with him etc and being perfectly honest it really hurt!! On top of being a bit sleep deprived and generally worn down from my new responsibilities I now had my own personal piranha and it was really hard not to react badly and shout at Buddy when he continuously nipped and hurt me. So what was the answer….

I think it’s important to remember that puppies are exploring the world with their mouths, it’s how they learn. Puppies often learn what is called bite inhibition when they are with their littermates and other dogs and this is why if a puppy is removed too soon from its litter it can cause issues. If you watch a group of puppies a lot of their play is biting each other. They are pushing the boundaries and seeing what is acceptable behaviour. If you find that when you are trying to play with your puppy they are nipping you then often letting out a high pitched yelp helps them to understand that they have hurt you the way a littermate would show them. Stop playing with them and walk away and the negative result will help to learn they should not be biting you. 

One of the hardest things I found about controlling the nipping and biting was more my ability to control my reaction to it. A dog trainer explained to me that my natural reaction to shout out and move away quickly would trigger the ‘prey drive’ in Buddy and he would think it was a game of chase.  As strange as it sounds she recommended me washing my wellies and starting to wear them in the house. That way if Buddy took a chomp at my ankles I wouldn’t feel anything or react. I could simply stay still, firmly say ‘no’ and walk away calmly so he knew I wasn’t playing anymore. I have to say it worked a treat! My other handy tip was as soon as I got home I got changed into the same pair of old leggings that already had rips in if further damage was done by accident I didn’t become even more frustrated that more clothes had been damaged. I’m not saying you have to walk around in the same pair of trousers and wellies in your house for the rest of your life but I did this for the worst period, as a coping mechanism, and it really helped me.

Chewing

A similar topic to general biting is the puppy chewing things it isn’t meant to. From my experience this can be caused by a couple of things. When Buddy was younger this was a sign of his teething.  The process of teething is an uncomfortable one where their gums are hot and itchy and they are frustrated and don’t know what else to do but bite and chew things to alleviate that discomfort. There are lots of specific teething type toys and chews out there for puppies you can buy, but a great piece of puppy advice I was given was to saturate an old tea towel and twist it round then pop it in the freezer. Once frozen you can give this to the puppy to chew and the coolness helps soothe their gums. Similarly frozen carrot slices work well too and are a healthy snack for them. 

The other cause of chewing which I observed with Buddy when he was around 6 months old was boredom. I found that Buddy started to destroy his bed when I went to work and this was a typical sign that he was bored. At this stage I was working full time and coming home at lunch to take him for a walk but it was obvious that at this stage of his life that wasn’t enough stimulation for him. In my personal circumstances, I made the decision to start taking him to doggy daycare so he wasn’t bored since then he has never chewed or destroyed anything in the house. I appreciate not everyone can afford daycare but understanding that chewing is often a sign of boredom can help you work towards fixing the issue either with longer walks, more enrichment games and so on. 

Barking

Barking is a dogs way of communicating with us. There can be many reasons for a dog barking and it is perfectly normal but there can come a stage where it becomes excessive and can cause great amounts of stress for you as a dog owner. Below are a few of the reasons your dog may  be barking:

  • Boredom – commonly paired with other behaviour such as chewing, digging and general destructive behaviour. These dogs have a build up of energy and are looking for any way to let it out. 
  • Attention seeking – clever dogs will quickly work out that when they bark they get attention from their owner (whether this is good or bad attention they don’t necessarily care) so will often repeat the behaviour to get the focus back on them. 
  • Over excitement – typically seen when playing, it’s like when a child gets over excited and starts screaming as they run around. A form of energy outburst for the dog. 
  • Defensive barking – similar to offensive barking this is to protect from a threat but is seen alongside more nervous body language as the dog isn’t sure how to act. 
  • Offensive barking – this is a signal the dog is trying to protect themselves or something. You will often notice their body language changes to be more aggressive too. 
  • Watchdog barking – probably one of the best forms of barking that is encouraged but once your dog makes you aware of something it’s nice to know how to ‘switch it off’ 
  • Separation distress – if your pet doesn’t like being left alone and/or separated from you they will often bark and/or whine and howl as a signal that they are not happy about it.

I think the first step in tackling the barking issue is to try and work out which of the above type or barking your dog is doing. For example, if your dog is ‘watchdog barking’ and it drives you crackers, close your curtains so they can’t see out and set them off. (This is a Buddy special so something we have to do quite often if there is a lot of activity going on outside).

To try and help manage the barking situation there are a couple of different things you can try. Make a point of rewarding calm quiet behaviour. Give them lots of fuss, tickles and praise when they are calm and relaxed and on the occasions where they are being noisy try and ignore them to show that the attention seeking behaviour doesn’t work! Dogs are very intelligent and will soon figure out what you want from them. 

A favourite trick that I use on Buddy is the distraction technique – particularly when he has a bee in his bonnet about something he has seen outside. Often I will get out some treats and do a mini training session with him where we do the basics like, sit, paw, lie down, roll over and high five. By the time he has finished doing his tricks he has forgotten what he was barking about and peace is restored. From my personal experience I think a calm environment helps a lot. Buddy is a cockapoo so typically quite a giddy breed. It’s great to have play time and make sure he is enriched and entertained but I also make a point of having down time too where he knows it’s time for a lie down and a tummy stoke or a cuddle on my knee while I watch TV or do some work. 

Also, a final piece of puppy advice on this, if you still think your dog is excessively barking and it doesn’t seem to fit in any of the above categories, why not arrange a quick check up with your vet to rule out anything physiological – remember your dog is trying to communicate with you about something and if it’s not obvious what that is then a trip to the vet will help give you peace of mind.

Resource Guarding

Resource guarding is the term for when a dog becomes protective over something. The resource itself that the dog chooses to guard  can be food, treats, toys, a place (a bed or favorite chair), or occasionally a person. It is not uncommon and can happen towards other dogs or even humans. 

Typically a dog would display this behaviour by growling or barking as someone gets closer to the item they are trying to protect. This is the dog’s way of saying they want some space. Some great puppy advice for this is making sure that your dog has a special place in your home where they feel safe and they can go there and be left alone. This is often very important if you have young children that can sometimes be overwhelming for your dog and they need a place to escape. It’s important to teach children not to go near the dog if they are in their ‘safe space’. For Buddy he had a large cage (with the door left open) with blankets draped over 3 sides so it was quiet, dark and cosy. 

If your dog gets hold of an item they aren’t meant to have and you need to retrieve it then your best bet is going for the diversion method. Sometimes the ‘leave it/drop it’ command just won’t cut it so you need to offer a tasty morsel or toy that they absolutely love, known as the ‘high value reward’. This might be their favourite ball or if they are like Buddy it could be a little bit of cheese or hot dog sausage. Show them they will get something even better and place it away from them and 9 times out of 10 then will drop the item in favour of the thing you want to get back. 

Please remember that resource guarding is a normal behaviour for most dogs but use common sense when it comes to the level of aggression a dog is showing and if necessary seek professional advice if you think it is something that needs addressing. 

Post Puppy Blues

You would be amazed at the amount of people I hear from who say they are feeling really low after getting their new dog/puppy and want to know if it is normal. The answer is yes!! 

When I got Buddy I lived on my own and was working full time. I had been waiting to get a dog for the last 5 years and had done an extensive amount of research and preparation so in theory I was as prepared as I could possibly be but wow it was hard. It wasn’t so much the physical changes in my life (getting up early to let him out to the toilet, not being able to go out for more than 2 hours in those early months, watching him like a hawk constantly to make sure he wasn’t going to the toilet in the house, chewing or eating something he shouldn’t) but in fact it was the emotional side of things. 

Getting a puppy is different for everyone. Some people already have children and know what it is to have another life depend on you 100%, some people already have a dog and are used to tailoring their lifestyle to accommodate their needs and some, like me, go from having a responsibility free life to suddenly having this gorgeous bundle of fluff rely on them for everything. My point is everyone approaches being a puppy owner from a different place and we all cope in different ways so it is inevitable that we all have different reactions and experiences to bringing that puppy home and whatever emotions you go through that is okay!

I remember distinctly after the first week thinking ‘what have I done?!’ I was tired from the middle of the night get-ups to the toilet, frustrated because my adorable puppy kept nipping and hurting me and was feeling very confined to my house as I didn’t want to leave him and he hadn’t finished his vaccination course so we couldn’t even go out for a walk yet. Here was this defenceless puppy who wanted nothing but love from me and I was starting to resent him which then gave me feelings of guilt on top of that. I had imagined having this wonderful puppy that I could bond with who would want to sit and cuddle on my knee and be my best friend. Instead I had a wriggly piranha who didn’t want to sit still for 30 seconds let alone be cuddled. I thought I had made a huge mistake. 

What really helped me in those early days was the support of friends and family. My mum offered to come and look after Buddy for a couple of hours every now and then so I could have some ‘me time’ (whether that was to go meet a friend, hit the gym or just clean my house without Buddy attacking the hoover) and it made a huge difference. Once Buddy had received his full course of vaccinations I was able to go out and meet friends with dogs for walks and start socialising Buddy which was very important. I also joined a cockapoo group on Facebook which was a great source of support with people going through similar experiences and was one of the inspirational factors for me coming up with the idea for K9 Nation.

I think if you are encountering any negative emotional responses to your new dog, you need to be okay with that. Don’t beat yourself up or think you aren’t ‘normal.’  I think there are common misconceptions that having a new puppy should be all cuddles and joyous picture perfect moments and it’s not at all. Don’t give yourself a hard time and just recognise that you have made a big life changing decision and allow yourself time to adjust. Reach out to your support network so that they can help you. Find a way to make time for yourself again and don’t feel guilty about it. Find a local dog walker/daycare if you can afford it so that if you need the odd day off or have something you need to do you have a back up plan. If you can’t afford that then find a local neighbour or friend who loves dogs and would be happy to dog sit for you. Look for friends on the K9 Nation site who can help ease the burden and arrange meet ups.

Summary

As I said before, I know this is a long blog post but I think it’s really important that for those people who feel they are struggling with adjusting to life with a new dog/puppy to know there are resources and support out there for them. Owning a dog is a huge responsibility and in those early days it can be very tough. I can openly admit that I didn’t enjoy my first 9 months that much with Buddy but I wouldn’t change it for the world. He is now 4 years old and the best possible dog I could ask for which has made it all worthwhile. 

I created K9 Nation because I wanted a free online platform for all dog owners in the UK to make dog ownership as easy as possible. I wanted to create a supportive community and help bring dog owners together to share experiences and advice. Whether you want inspiration for a new walk, to plan a fun family day out and want to know where you can go with your dog, get some puppy advice, or simply need to find a local groomer… my vision is that K9 Nation will be that one stop shop for all your needs and I can’t wait to see it grow. 

For those who have decided that rehoming is the only option please consider what is right for the dog. I don’t want to go into too much detail as there is lots of advice online for what to do and it’s not the focus of this blog but remember there are several options you can explore:

  • Return them to the breeder, shelter, or rescue group you acquired them from..
  • Place them with a trusted friend or family member. 
  • Advertise for someone to adopt them. 
  • Take them to a good shelter or rescue.

I guess, to draw this to a close, I would just like to encourage people who are struggling and maybe questioning whether or not to rehome their new dog to persevere and give their dog a chance. A lot of the things I have mentioned above are all surmountable and support is out there if you need it. The reward for your persistence through the tough times is your dog’s unconditional love for the whole of their life. One of my favourite quotes that I like to remember is, “He might only be here for part of your life, but for him you are his whole life.”

For those looking for more information on this subject why not take a look at a recently published article from ‘Choosing Therapy’ on the subject here. All their articles are written by licensed therapists, professors, and other qualified professionals and are medically reviewed prior to publication to ensure accuracy

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